I’m doing the best I can and so are you….
Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.- don Miguel Ruiz – The Four Agreements
It’s important to realize everyone you know, from the homeless man in McDonalds to your directionless daughter to your super successful neighbor, is doing the best they can do.
You may approach this thought with doubt. “Really?” you question. “I don’t see that my (son,daughter, mother in law, friend, brother, sister, co-worker, boss, etc) is really doing their best. They’re a mess. Constantly in the midst of some sort of drama. They are not doing their best.”
Maybe their best is not YOUR best. Maybe their best is just staying above ground and vertical. Maybe their best is putting one foot in front of the other for a whole day. Maybe their best is not breaking down entirely. Maybe their best is not spending the day in tears.
When we think about the ‘best’ , we assume it’s like the Olympic games. The best won. They did their best. Trophies, honors, medals, endorsements follow because they did their best. But there is a confluence of luck, timing, and stars aligning that have much to do with who won and who did not.
The best is not based on ability. The ‘best’ is a personal gauge. People don’t wake in the morning and think “I’m going to be the worst I can be today.” Human always strive for the best.
If you run into an issue today, think about the best. Don’t judge someone else’s best against what you personally think that is. Judgement is an issue. Judgement frowns and whines and is mostly blind.
Recognize everyone is doing their best, including you. If someone complains about their life, problems, issues and circumstances reply with, “I know you’re doing the best you can do.” And don’t tack on “but…” Just be aware of the spirit and soul inside that human.
To be your personal best factor judgement out of your perception. Approach humans with love and peace and positive energy.
You’ll feel better at the end of the day knowing everyone is doing their best and recognizing that effort in your fellow humans. Love yourself. Love one another.