November 12- The Hunger for Applause
“There are high spots in all of our lives and most of them have come about through encouragement from someone else. I don’t care how great, how famous or successful a man or woman may be, each hungers for applause.”- george matthews adams
Validation is such an easy thing to give. A simple word of encouragement can make a huge difference in the way we perceive mistakes, disagreements and disappointments. We all want applause- whether it’s a kind word, a sweet deed or simply not making a huge deal out of an unintentional error. Life is brimming with mistakes and misdeeds. What makes the difference in how these events affect us is our attitude but also the attitude of others toward our missteps.
It’s easy to berate a bandmate or a manger for an error in judgement. It’s simple to take a musical mistake on stage and make it a burr under the skin of another player. A mistake is turned into an ongoing joke, and may be funny to the responsible party for a time, but not as a constant reminder.
This may be news, but it takes the same amount of effort to be cruel than to be kind. The words you speak in callous jest may serve to ratify anothers feelings of insignificance and sub par abilities. Unfeeling comments abound in a music environment all too often, as we compare talents and successes.
Today, give someone the applause they deserve in your music circle. Give the guitar player a bit of praise for showing up early each time the band pulls away from the practice space, even though his stage presence is a little lacking. Tell your bassist how much you appreciate him driving and driving and driving with no complaints. Tell your singer how much you like the way he always helps load in and load out. Tell your manager you appreciate the joy he’s doing to further your music career. Be sure your agent, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, kids, dads, moms and fans gets the applause they deserve today. Maybe a standing ovation is in order for those who love and support you in this most unusual business.