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December 19, 2008 / alunatunes

December 19- A change in attitude

The basic thing is that everyone wants happiness, no one wants suffering. And happiness mainly comes from our own attitude, rather than from external factors. If your own mental attitude is correct, even if you remain in a hostile atmosphere, you feel happy. -The Dalai Lama

We’re taught early on that in a sad situation we should feel sad,in a happy one we should be happy. We  should morph our emotions around our surroundings, soaking  up our envirmonment like little sponges.

Nothing “out there” is making you sad or happy or angry or depressed “in here”. The seat of your soul is a place of contentment or hostility and it is of your very own making. Imagine that. You are in control. An attitude adjustment is all it takes to greet the world anew.  If we are happy within ourselves, the world cannot touch us.

Musicians encounter all sorts of environments.  The trick is we are trying to bring light, creativity and positive vibes to sources of low energy. A typical bar is a place where people go to drink, party, meet up and hook up. Often, the musical presentation for the evening is wallpaper to the more fundamental issue of the communal alcohol well and the “possibility party” presented by the opposite sex.

Musicians must play venues. Musicians must present themselves in situation where music is not often the focus. I’ve seen artists totally derailed by this performance dynamic. And then I have seen shinning stars, determined to make the very best of the situation presented.

Attitude is everything. Looking at a performance situation differently, makes the performance situation different. Particularly during the holidays, audiences have their own agenda and it may not include paying attention to the band. Recognize YOU are in control of this situation. Change your attitude about an unresponsive audience and recognize your own mental attitude, even in a place of low energy, can make a huge difference in your happyometer.



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  1. Melanie Mulhall / Dec 22 2008 3:52 am


    I’ll throw in a word or two of encouragement from the audience. It’s true, we (the audience) is often chatting, flirting, drinking, dancing, arguing, and otherwise engaged in everything but listening to the music . . . or at least we think we are. But the music creeps into us anyway because music is vibration and vibration does that. Long after that night you thought we weren’t listening, we may be impacted by something we heard or just the feel of the night that was impacted by your sounds.

    It wasn’t at a bar or nightclub, but I still remember exactly where I was and what I was doing when I first heard Al Jarreau singing “She’s Leaving Home.” I was still living in Illinois, in Springfield and I was sitting on the living floor of my apartment, playing Scrabble and drinking wine with my boyfriend. I had the radio on, a jazz station. We were chatting and playing, the music just background to our activity–until that song came on. We shut up. One of us said, “Listen to that. Wow!” We were rivetted.

    Directly after the song was done, one of us called the radio station and asked who that was. It began a love affair with Jarreau’s music that lasted several years.

    Play on!


  2. Melanie Mulhall / Dec 22 2008 3:54 am

    Ah, I meant “are” not “is.” When words go bad, it can be ugly.

  3. alunatunes / Dec 22 2008 12:00 pm

    Melanie this is a powerful statement ! I believe music does have a way of seeping into the brain, even if the body is dancing, drinking or flirting! Thanks for reminding me of this dynamic!

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