Recreational Buying and Valentines
“You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.” -Kahlil Gibran
Another holiday of plastic lurks on the doorstep this morning. Another opportunity to spend money to show someone how much we care. Should monetary spending be equal to our affection? If I purchase a bouquet of flowers imported from a foreign country (as most are) and a card created with non recyclable bling and give it to you over an overpriced candlelight supper, am I saying I love you? If I purchase a mass of sugar wrapped in cellophane, is my sweet gift of butter and preservatives a measure of my true love?
I love celebration days and Valentines is really no different. I choose to purchase and send Valentines to the little ones in my life, my two lovely step-granddaughters, who are eight and four. They’re young enough to have powerful fun with any colorfilled holiday celebration, without the deflating worry of getting or receiving something from “someone special”. On second thought, they mostly have fun with any old day. I’ve seen them happy and content and in a celebratory mood on a random Tuesday as well as on Christmas or Easter.
Maybe we can think beyond the glitz of Valentines and remember daily gifts of spirit, comfort, joy, understanding, and listening are powerful and long-lasting things to give to those we love. Valentines serves as a reminder that, perhaps, we just don’t pay enough attention to our loved ones on a daily basis, and fill the void with cards and confections and carnations.
Perhaps we should talk less and listen more. Perhaps we should look into the eyes of those we love and less at the television screen. Perhaps this Valentines day can mark a year-long campaign to simply pay attention to the ones who are so dear to us.
Poverty of the heart cannot be cured in one day with blossoms and sweetness. Make expressions of love a daily affair.